After dinner in downtown Montclair, we returned to James and Wendy’s place for the interrogation. I mean, interview. They met in a coffee shop in a Detroit suburb, got married eight months later, and have been together for a good six years plus. The lesson? Sometimes you need to just go for something and make it work.
They had a few other insights on love and happiness. In a marriage, learn to accept one another’s differences. Wendy accepts that James sometimes likes to wander around with no specific direction, while James is okay with the fact that Wendy includes shopping as one of her hobbies. Along that front, James works some serious Wall Street hours (think, past midnight times seven days a week), which could lead Wendy to wonder whether he’s really in the office, or if he’s actually at the Off Track Betting parlor. But Wendy doesn’t see the value in questioning whether James is downgrading the bond ratings of companies or betting on Seabiscuit – she can either trust him or not.
On finances, they’ve taken turns being the breadwinner, first Wendy when James was in grad school and now James, though Wendy does work a full-time job. (Note: Wendy mentioned that she may need to put in some overtime to cover than Chanel purse she’s been craving.)
The final thing I learned is not related to marriage. In Grand Theft Auto, when you crash a car too much and it starts to smoke, get out right away as it’s about to blow up. Hopefully that information won’t be relevant on our Wedding Road Trip with Roxy.
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